Tag: Success 2014

  • Surviving Success

    In business, you often hear people discussing how to survive failure. This is no small matter. Imagine investing considerable money, sometimes a life’s fortune, into a particular venture only to have it fail. Consider, as well, the significant cost in time and emotional commitment to a business and then think about how not succeeding may affect someone on a psychological basis. No doubt, all business people should develop skills to help them deal with failure, or what I like to see as temporary nonsuccess. (In fact, this is a key skill set for all people, whether or not they are immersed in commerce.) After all, we really only fail when we stop attempting to achieve our goal or goals. As long as we are alive, there is hope that we can still make our dreams, as well as our well organized business, plans come true.

  • Thinking and Not Thinking in the Context of Action Leading to Something Meaningful or Not – A Reflection

    I opened the door. I stepped forward. I was nowhere. Was this obliteration? Had I ceased to exist? Where was I? Stop! If I could question where I was then I must have been somewhere. If I am where nothing exists then I do not exist. Wait. If I am where nothing exists? That makes no sense. There is no "where" in the realm of nonexistence. Wait. There is no "realm" of nonexistence. There is nothing. Wait. There is no "is" in nothingness. Wait, there is no "in" then. Need we care to what extent people judge the twists and turns of our thinking? Need every one of our thoughts be well reasoned? Should our every idea be congruent? To what extent do we mentally constipate ourselves by impeding a thought process that might allow us to end up in some very interesting places and with some meaningful results. So what if every thought we have does not lead to a Noble prize or a prize that's noble. Maybe, there are times when thinking for thinking's sake is reward enough.

  • Sin City 2014, Las Vegas 2014

    Basics, Brilliance and Self-betterment

    How many of us would like to know some secrets of self-improvement? How many of us yearn for a secret formula which will enable us to do better in school, at work or in sports? Surely, there must be some shortcuts to success. Geometry teaches us that the shortest distance between two points is a straight line. In life, the straight line to success is not a secret path. It may be a path filled with obstacles. It might be a steep path. But it is not a secret path. So many of us wish we were smarter, more athletic, better looking, etc. We believe that if we had those qualities, life would be so much easier. Yet, the road to success is not paved with bricks of brilliance. Yes, being smart is a good thing. But you do not have to have an Albert Einstein-like IQ to do well in life and make strong contributions to society.

  • Family 2014, They Can, Can

    They Can; I Can

    Here is a little tip for success I call, “They can; I can.” You might utilize this tip when you need to approach a particular challenge. Challenges can be exhilarating, yet they can also be frustrating. When we find ways to manage our frustration, we increase our ability to meet a challenge. Frustration can be overcome with inspiration. “They can; I can” is based on the power of example, or should I say numerous positive examples. Let’s say you work for a company and are tasked with learning a new skill. Maybe the organization you work for wants you to learn a new language. Perhaps, you need to learn new computer skills.

  • And Then Act

    On various occasions I have written about the need for proper planning as a way to accomplish a goal. This goal could be within the realm of school, athletics, business or personal relationships – virtually anything in the human experience. Setting out to accomplish a goal without having a proper plan is like going off to some exotic destination without a map. Without a map it is easy to get lost. Plans are of vital importance. However, after we have made plans to accomplish a goal, we must act. Make good plans and then act. This is one of the laws of success. Interestingly, we often get caught up with focusing on one of those things – planning or taking action – when we need to focus on both.

  • Challenges and Lists

    Years ago, my father commented to me that “Life deals cards daily.” How true that is. Sometimes we are dealt aces and we feel like we are on top of the world. At other times, we are dealt a hand like a foot – low cards putting us into a state of fear, worry and sadness. Life is filled ups and downs, some due to things we can control and others which are simply the result of random circumstance. What do we do when life deals us a tough hand? What happens when nothing seems to be going our way? What do we do when we feel like we are all alone, in the middle of the ocean treading water and about to drown?

  • A Quick Note to Self

    Dear Self, Please pay attention: Life is short. Yeah, you do not like to think about that, but it is. Show the people who are important to you the love and respect they deserve, while you still have time. There is nothing sadder than regret, especially when it comes to people we care about. In fact, the one thing that can make life seem unbearably long is living with great regret. You can change. Change is tough, and no matter what some clever marketers might have to say, change takes longer than you might hope for. However, get it through your head that personal change is possible and it makes more sense to work on changing yourself than attempting to change others. In fact, if you want to see change in others, change yourself. Hopefully, they will gain inspiration from your lead.

  • A Healthy Relationship with Time

    What is a long time? What is a short time? What is too much time? What is not enough time? The answers to these questions are largely dictated by their context. In terms of human biology, 100 years is a long time. After all, most of us do not live 100 years – though the number of centenarians is growing. In societal terms, 100 years, depending on your point of view, might be a lot of time. Certainly, we have seen massive technological change and consequent impact on society over the course of a century. We have grown in many senses, yet our philosophical underpinnings may not have changed as much as we think. So, in this sense, some folks might not think 100 years is a lot of time or 1000 years for that matter.

  • Hat, Sunglasses and Earplugs

    Let’s indulge ourselves in a quick thought exercise: Imagine you take a daily walk, for exercise. You walk for 45 minutes, along a busy thoroughfare. Additionally, let’s assume this walk is taken midday, when there is plenty of sun. Based on the facts as stated above, does it make sense to wear a wide brimmed hat? I would think so; we are told to protect ourselves from the sun. Does it make sense to wear sunglasses? I think most of us would agree that makes sense too. Proper sunglasses make it easier to see when it is sunny and help protect our eyes (if they block out UVA and UVB rays.)

  • Building Relationships

    It is funny how we talk about building relationships; yet, we do not seem to spend a lot of time focused on what we mean by “building.” At some point in life we realize relationships are constructed. When that specifically happens, I do not know. In primary school, we make friends. We come home to our parents and say something like, “I made a friend at school today.” In the early days of school, friendships seem to come spontaneously. As we mature, it appears that relationships need more specific attention so that they might evolve. The easy friendships we were able to strike up in our beginning school years do not seem to come as easily.